Congratulate us! In just a few weeks we will celebrate ten years of "Success-in-Marriage." Notice our word SUCCESS. We've not just survived ten years of marriage (as a friend recently said of her relationship with her spouse). On the contrary, we have experience SUCCESS in our relationship. By success we mean greater intimacy, better understanding, increased patience, and quality communication.
What is our secret? It a cumulative thing! There are dozens of things we do daily excitement to add romance to our relationship. Here are our seven favorite tips to spicing up your marriage.
1) KEEP DATING. No, not other people! Keep dating your spouse. Hire a baby sitter. Get dressed up! Make special dinner reservations. Buy her flowers. Wear his favorite perfume. Approach each "date" with your spouse with the same desire to impress that you held in your heart on your first date.
2) WRITE LOVE NOTES. Leave them in the brief case, on the mirror, or taped on the computer monitor. Keep them mushy (and a little enticing if your sure nobody else will read them).
3) BACK RUBS. Need I say more?
4) GIVE "LOVE COUPONS." Here's a idea we've borrowed from some friends. Give a coupon redeemable for your mate's favorite activities: dinner in a particular restaurant, tickets to a favorite sporting event, etc. Be creative! If you are really daring give your spouse a "blank-check love coupon." Just be certain you are ready to pay-up when the coupon is redeemed.
5) CELEBRATE AN ANNUAL HONEYMOON. Think about it! Doesn't an annual honeymoon sound more fun than just another anniversary?
6) BREAKFAST IN BED. Make it! Serve it! Include a flower and love note!
7) KISS YOUR MATE. Don't be content with a simple little peck on the lips. Give your spouse at least 10 seconds of serious affection each day. Try it just before leaving for the office. You'll hardly be able to wait to get home!
Here's a bonus tip. Say the words "I LOVE YOU!" to your spouse every day--say it with passion and feeling.